finding your authentic self when communicating with clients

Service professionals often find it challenging to connect with clients on a human-to-human level. That’s because you’ve been trained to cultivate a business persona that’s distinct from the person you are in your down time with family and friends. The business face you put on typically reflects just how seriously you take your role as an advisor and advocate to people who need your help.


How service providers can bring more of themselves to their work is a topic that frequently comes up when I consult with clients about there business communications. So, I was very happy to read the practical wisdom and guidance that communication skills coach Joey Asher offers in an article titled Faking the ‘Real You.’


Although he’s writing about public speaking, Asher’s advice applies just as well to any kind of written or live communication. His premise is that people who tend to come off as stiff, formal and standoffish when they communicate have to learn how to “fake [their] own authentic communication style.”


In presenting this “authenticity paradox,” Asher states: “Great speakers know how to fake their own "natural style" even when they don't feel natural at all. It's learning how to act like your real self.” So, instead of being formal, cool and distant when communicating with clients and other business contacts, we need to mimic our “natural personality” – the friendly cadence, rhythm and energy of the communications we have with people that we feel close to and comfortable with.


There’s no doubt that service providers can use Asher’s approach to foster successful business connections.

Business Writing Tips for Aspiring Thought Leaders

A few years back, consultant Elise Bauer introduced me to the term thought leader, which she defines as “a recognized leader in one’s field.” Bauer says that this recognition comes when “the outside world” acknowledges you for freely and generously sharing your intelligence and expertise to meet the needs of your clients and the “broader marketplace” in which you operate.


Picking up on this theme, author and consultant David Meerman Scott provides some great tips on producing thought leadership content. He notes that - whether presented via white papers, blogs, newsletters or reports – this kind of written material:


  • Addresses issues of interest to your clients and prospects
  • Aims to educate and entertain, but not to sell
  • Solves problems and answers questions
  • Shows that you and your firm “are smart and worth doing business with”


Scott is one of my favorite sources of information on creating excellent Web and print content. He offers his insights through his blog, webink now, and his terrific book, Cashing In with Content.


For the visual learners among us, Brian Carroll has a post on Using Thought Leader Content As A Lead Generation Tool that includes a great mindmap of client-centric content that can position you as a thought leader.


Rounding out the tips is Scott Ginsberg’s post on 17 ways to become a thought leader. My favorite, of course, is “write, write, write” because, as Ginsberg puts it, “[i]f you’re not capturing your thoughts, ideas, experiences, stories, advice and insights, forget all about this whole thought leader thing."

Write for Clients Launches

Welcome to Write for Clients.


I’m Lori Herz. I designed this site as an open space where service professionals can learn and discuss how powerful writing builds business success.


As a lawyer by training and business writer and communications consultant by trade, I’ve spent over 15 years exploring this connection. The communications landscape has changed dramatically in that time. But, strong business writing remains a potent relationship tool that helps you connect to the people you work with and want to work with.


I invite you to visit here often for fresh tips and commentary on harnessing the power of your business writing. A blog is an ongoing conversation, so please feel free to add your voice and insight to the coverage at Write for Clients.


Thanks to Kevin, Mark, Stacey and the great team at LexBlog for bringing my blog design to life. This is my second time around as a LexBlog client and I appreciate your steady support and professionalism over the years.


Many thanks, also, to my family for cheering me on in this new venture. Write for Clients wouldn’t exist without your help and patience. There’s nothing like the discerning eye and unbridled honesty of a 12-year-old aspiring writer.

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